What can I do to support this at home?
Ask your child "What problems did you come across today?"
When asked as a predictable question this implies that it is normal to encounter problems. Everybody does. This, in turn, makes it normal to talk about confronting and solving those problems. It also helps students identify problems and view them as places to learn, and it sets up the possibility of asking, "How did you solve that problem?" as an invitation to construct an agentive narrative. We can also expand the conversation to "Has anyone else had that problem? How did you solve it?," "How else could we solve it?," and "This is what I do when I have that problem," each of which further expands the agentive possibilities.
- Choice Words, Peter Johnston, p. 32
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Don't Take Anything Personally
Please remind students that while words can hurt, things that are shared with your child are not always because of something they have said or done. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When your child is immune to the opinions and actions of others, they won't be the victim of needless suffering.
- The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz